Quote: So how do us HD men make ourselves happy when it takes a love TO make us happy.
Spend some serious time in self-examination and trying new ways of acting and thinking until you figure it out. No one can tell you the answer. You have to find it for yourself. Stop reading and relying on other people's opinions who say it is up to someone else to make you happy. Challenge yourself to get out of the comfortable zone you've created for yourself where someone else is responsible. Move away from reading things that are just about the importance of sex. Expand your search. Pretend you have no wife and there is no chance of anyone else ever being in the picture, what are you going to do?
Quote: Guys that CHEAT are MAKING themselve happy, and that appears to be the only way to get happiness.
Baloney. Defeatist thinking. No, these are the guys who are stuck in the idea that sex is the only thing that will make them happy. May be true for some. May only be a short-lived happiness though. Even if it's with your wife, it'll still be a temporary, short-lived happiness that requires a continual fix provided by another person.
