Labug, thanks for chiming in. I will check out your post.
It still shocks me to see how similar many stories are and how predictable the behavior is from the MLCer. From what my H says about "where he is" he does not think there are lots of people out there going through similar experiences, and I think he feels pretty isolated and lonely in his experience. Of course he cannot hear anything from me right now, so telling him that many if not most marriages go through very difficult periods just falls on deaf ears so I don't even try that angle.
We on this board, know differently and thanks to this community we don't feel any where near the isolation that I think our MLCer feel. Must be sad for them to think they are THE ONLY one going through this.
If anyone knows where to find donkey's ears like Eeyore's I'd like to buy a pair for my H. Here is an Eeyore quote that sounds like my grumpy H:
"Good morning, Pooh Bear," said Eeyore gloomily. "If it is a good morning," he said. "Which I doubt," said he. "Why, what's the matter?" "Nothing, Pooh Bear, nothing. We can't all, and some of us don't. That's all there is to it." "Can't all what?" said Pooh, rubbing his nose. "Gaiety. Song-and-dance. Here we go round the mulberry bush."
