Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

So Sunday night, around 7:30 I get a text from H asking what I'm doing. It's odd to hear from him so early, but I responded that I was relaxing and watching tv.

H then asked if I wanted to join him at a local bar/grill, where we used to go all of the time. My first reaction was, great!, he actually wants to spend time with me in a public place.

Almost immediately, I then wondered if he wanted "to talk" and it wasn't going to be good.

I get there a few minutes later. Fortunately, I was dressed cute already, so I just had to touch up my makeup. He was on his phone, texting, most likely and ignored me for at least a minute.

He then said hello and went back to texting. At this point, I decided to do the same and began responding to face book messages. That got his attention and he finally put down his phone.

Apparently, he'd spend the day at one of his friend's places, the young Hooters girl that I'd been suspicious of, and he was upset because he thinks he's falling for her, but he's just a friend to her.

I honestly wasn't surprised by this, because I'd suspected it all along. A guy isn't going to be able to hang out with a (somewhat) cute girl doing fun things and not feel some attraction.

Maybe if we ever did anything other than discuss bills and all the work that needs to be done on the house to get it sold, he'd fall back in love with me too. But he sees me as the responsible one, not someone to have fun with.

Long story somewhat short, he says he's done trying with us because he never wants to get this hurt again.

So for now, I've been trying to contact him only about the house. We didn't communicate at all yesterday and just had a few texts today about the bills, started by him.

I also copied him on a note to the realtor about the work we needed to do, so that he'd be informed without me reaching out to him directly.

This is so difficult, but I guess I'll know where I fit in when the house closes on the 30th and he moves somewhere.

I'm not sure whether to keep giving him time to figure out his life and his depression or to tell him to go ahead and file because there is no point in staying married if he is always going to want someone else.

It's one thing to be separated while we, i.e. him, figure things out, but I'm not sure if I can cope with him falling for people.

I've been thinking about it for three days now and still don't know. This isn't the relationship I ever thought I'd have. And I know that our current M is over and we'd have to start a new one, so maybe we should get a D.

At that point, I know I'd back out of his life and really let him see what he chose. I'm just not sure if I'd ever be willing or able to R with him if he wanted to and that scares me.

And here I go again, making plans for the future and trying to think through all of the possibilities. I just need to take one day at a time and see what happens.

On the positive, H does contact me when he's upset and hasn't actually filled out the D papers, so maybe he is still conflicted. I can't figure him out, so I need to stop wasting my time trying to right now.