I agree with virtually everything you say. There are all great goals to have, and they are mine. But the bad thing is that most of the books I have read, including SSM, will tell you that the result of a wife losing her desire for her man is to damage everything about a mans emotions.
If you look at the needs of a LD female, you will see that just about any close friend can meet those needs, not just her husband. But the HD male has the overwhelming need for a lover. Communication is nice, Time together is nice. But honestly, the qualities in marriage that LD spouse want are appreciated, but they are not LOVE to HD men. It's all physical to us. So how do us HD men make ourselves happy when it takes a love TO make us happy. Guys that CHEAT are MAKING themselve happy, and that appears to be the only way to get happiness.
