Rachael, Keep your expectations at zero. Many of them will say that they want to work on the marriage and then continue on as if they never said it.
He's going to have ups and downs and they are going to frustrate you, but you will need to remain as calm as you can. Testing of the spouse is all part of the journey and if he sees that you've not actually changed, it's one more justification as to why he wants out of the relationship. You will need to dig deeper for more patience in the days to come. If he annoys you, count to ten and walk away. The less you say to him when he does this, the better.
Enjoy the holiday and leave the mlc monster at the door for today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
