W came by to get some stuff yesterday. Said she was content on how things were. About us being apart. Asked if i had called the attorney and i said no. I told her i was nite going to file but understood if she let she had to that she could. More discussions.
She texted me today asking for the attorneys email. Told her her I didn't have it. She then texted and said she called him and left a message.
I know she's telling me she moving toward. I know it ain't over til its over. But i sure could use some encouragement or advice right now.
NGU, I think you're doing fine. not pursuing but not pushing her away either. I think she was trying to get a reaction out of you, and you just let her know that you are not standing in her way, and not begging her to stay. it will make her think.
Starsky and the others will probably have more concrete advice.
so she gives you the carrot. then she gives you the stick.
Why don't you just give her the attorney's phone number and leave it at that.
And if she asks/demands/offers any legal , financial , precedence items.
Reply " That is best left between our Attorneys."
Why do you ask her how she is doing?
You know where it is going to lead towards.
Next time communicate to her business like. Stuff like Attorney contact info should be dealt with right away. When we are saying keep conversations to a minimum we do not mean to be passive aggressive or just full out ignore her.
If its important you reply with respective answer that is 100% accurate and answers the question exactly ( think like your taking to a boarder guard )
If its a leading emotional item. Then ignore or say. I will think about it and get back to you ( Then you get back to her within 24 hours )
Treat her with respect in your conversations. Keep out relationship and legal talks. When in doubt do it in writing.
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F'ing crazy. W just called and said she thought I should hear it from her. She was out on a date and got busted by a couple from our church group. He is a guy I've been turning to to vent and gives great DB advise. She told me this is the first date she's been on.
She started bringing up the relationship and that I can't meet her emotional needs. I basically said fine, I release her. Not that she needs my permission, I guess I need to say it for myself.
F'ing crazy. W just called and said she thought I should hear it from her. She was out on a date and got busted by a couple from our church group. He is a guy I've been turning to to vent and gives great DB advise. She told me this is the first date she's been on.
She started bringing up the relationship and that I can't meet her emotional needs. I basically said fine, I release her. Not that she needs my permission, I guess I need to say it for myself.
I can't type I am so upset. Will post later.
The OM is someone that you used to "vent" to? Just great.
She was not on a date with the guy from my church group, my church group friend and his wife saw her with some unknown guy. When she knew she was spotted, she later went to their table to talk to them and my friend asked her to leave. Apparently a bad enough scene where W and OG left.
She called me to tell that she felt the church friend thought she had been dating for a while. She said this was the first date she's been on. Why would she care to tell me that, is she worried about her reputation with me?
I had previously told W that I thought the separation was where she wanted space to breath, to work on herself. That I know understood she is moving on. Implying I was ready to accept it and move on myself. After later talking with my brother, he felt she is trying to make me pull the trigger so she doesn't have to accept responsibility, that I divorced her. Like she had no choice.
I don't think I can do this if I know she is dating other guys. Right not, I think my plan is to do nothing. Just wait and she what she does.
