My H is kicking and screaming again. He's been texting the boys, questioning why they don't want to spend time with him and accusing me of brainwashing them. He went on to write that 50% of marriages end in divorce and those dads get to see their kids (big assumption!) so why is he being punished. It's all about him - still! He's never acknowledged the pain he's caused. That's primarily why the boys don't want to see him. They also know that they're not his priority. He also continues to justify his actions by saying he had to leave because I wouldn't listen to him. Seriously?!!!
I picture my H throwing a tantrum, screaming what about me, my happiness, my dreams?!!! Why am I the bad guy for wanting to be happy? He's really fighting this major life transition. I wonder how long he'll dig in his heals. Like all tantrums, without an audience they dissipate.
I've watched The Shift with Dr. Wayne Dyer twice now, once with S15. We both thought it was great and I highly recommend it. The "shift" can happen any time, but really does apply to the midlife transition when people start searching for happiness (really a life with meaning and purpose). Of course, those of us left behind know that the one searching will never find what they really seek in another partner, material things, etc. I find it ironic that I'm the one who is actually starting to achieve peace and happiness while my H is in the exact same place seven months later.
My H turns 50 next week and, in my opinion, he has absolutely nothing to show for all of his years on earth, except for the two precious kids that he walked out on.
Any advice on how to deal with him? We haven't communicated in over two weeks which has been great. Eventually, he'll call and I need a plan.
