When it's a one-way street...part 7

[adinva]

CV all I can say is that I didn't have the tools I thought I did in our marriage. I saw the world my way and really couldn't understand how H could be so wrong-headed, and he did the same back to me. Postbomb I've done solid work in good faith to fix the issues I created, recognizing that it would help our dynamic even if he never changed a bit. And it did help. And that's why I've told you to work on you. My H has had no interest in exploring our issues or his issues, and hasn't given it a chance even for the sake of our kids. I find that very sad.

I hope you learn to reframe your questions so that you can be more actively part of the solution. You must learn to humanely see his perspective, and to accept that you may not be as perfectly reasonable as you present yourself, or I worry that you'll subject yourself and your H to this problem-without-a-solution until your S grows up. I hope for better for you both.

I'm in a lot of pain right now so I'm going to check out but I hope this has been somewhat helpful for you.

Best,
Adinva