Christine, It's so very hard to second guess where these guys are coming from. One way or the other it should not affect the way you handle things now.
You CANNOT pursure him. The only thing that will have a chance of attracting him is your independence. It's imperative that you remain his close friend but at as if your fine with either way things go.
If you don't then he won't give you a second glance, because he will feel that things have not changed nor will they ever.
What ever you've been doing in the past, turn it around and do the opposite. If you've been a home body, get your butt out of the house and go have fun with friends, or go to a bookstore and browse, or to a movie by yourself-EVEN if you don't feel like it. I guarantee you'll feel better for it.
H will notice these changes and the first thing they think is that which has been mine is now her own.
It reminds him of what he fell in love with. There are no guarantees, but it gives you a chance. One that you really don't have unless you detach and let him see your moving on. There's hope, you just have to do your part. Good luck! Rachael
