Your H talks a lot like mine. As hurt as I am by his betrayal and as focused on him as I am, I am going to remind you to detach. I am working on it and it's not easy. I learned that some people can detach right away, for others it takes a while longer. For me, after 1yr, I still can't say I'm detached. I hate it that I can't!
Thinking of you...
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017