But I do still love her and it is hard to see her like this. My goal from the start was to somehow have my family back. I just don't trust her motives. She doesn't want the adjustment in lifestyle and maybe wants to get to KY and then she will have much more favorable terms in the divorce. Maybe I'm just being cynical but I have to be careful right?
Yes sir, you do have to be careful.
So if your goal is still the same, and she wants to work at the marriage?
Prove it, have her put her actions where her words are, you are on the right path with that idea.
She doesn't want a divorce? She wants you to take her back? Then she needs to follow your lead and what you want to do, not what she wants to do.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK