I think I remember you if my memory serves me right.
Feel free to come over here any time! There's alot of great people on here.
Some signs your H is coming around is that he'll want to talk to you and be with you more.
There won't be the anger in his voice, and you'll just be able to tell he's interested in you. The best thing you can possibly do now is KEEP LIVING YOUR OWN LIFE.
If he's calling you, DO NOT take all his calls.(hard, I know!) I know it will be tempting, but if he's just starting to come around you have to entice him and the best way to do that is to not always be available to him.
Don't ask me why, but men what what they can't have. They like a woman that is a challenge.
I'm pretty much an expert at what DOSESN'T work, so I'm telling you all the things I'm doing now.(better late than never!)
You have to be somewhat detached from him, and by that I mean BE INDEPENDENT. The last thing a man wants is a woman that is clingy, or whiney. DON NOT try to talk to him about your R. You'll know when things are on a more solid ground when to do that.
Don't ask questions. Just be amazingly fun to be around and treat him as though he were your very best friend. Don't be fake-he'll see right through it.
Be what he fell in love with. When your together-be the first one to leave. DON'T call him to do things, or to talk.
Leave all that for him. If your not together much, make the very most of when you are together.
Write down goals for yourself-and I mean FOR YOURSELF. This is IMPORTANT TO DO.
Example. Some of my goals are:
1.Go back to school and keep my GPA up. 2. Go out with friends more and have fun 3. Spend quality time with my family and more time with my brothers 4. Continue to lose weight and exercise 5. Quit Smoking altogether (I don't smoke much) 6. Do some remodeling in the house. 7. Take a Yoga class 8. Entertain more at my house. (I'd completely stopped that) 9. Continue to DB and be a good friend to my H.
Things like that. Notice how almost all those things are for ME. They make me feel better about me, and make me more attractive to my H at the same time.
READ all you can. People always suggest good reading that pertain to working on ourselves and our M. Get the book "Why Men Love Bitches." It's not what it sounds like. It is awesome and you'll have a whole new outlook on how to be attractive to your H.
LISTEN to the people on here that have success stories, and this is a good place to come and read about them.
BE patient. Let things happen as they will. It can take a LONG time even though they SEEM to be coming out of their craziness. It will happen slowly.
Hang in there and take care of YOU first and you'll feel so much better. Try to not think about all this 24/7. Have as much fun as you possibly can-it will help take your mind off your M some.
Glad you stopped in and good Luck ChristineE! Rachael
