Absolutely, good reminder and well said Accuray! So my 20 year reunion is coming up next month. I really want my W to go with me however I don’t have any expectations. I believe I utilized Accurays earlier advise which was I simply told W “ I am buying my ticket to my reunion tomorrow”. I didn’t ask her if she wanted to come but hopefully she knows she could ask. Since I said I am buying the ticket tomorrow, there’s still a day for her to make the decision but I am not holding my breath. I feel confident she’s a bit jealous that I am going because she knows there’s singles there however my intentions aren’t to make her jealous.
I took S to his baseball ceremony last night, he’s 8 and had a undefeated season! I am so proud of him and the team. After baseball I did the drop off and asked W how she was doing. She complained about not having any privacy in her new apartment. There’s tons of kids in the complex and it’s quite noisy and the patio’s highly exposed. We are also accustom to living in a home with privacy for the last decade. It’s interesting because I have always had a upbeat, happy go lucky attitude and W always complains about EVERYTHING. I know I might be contradicting myself with the following statement. I know I have my vises and I know I have my 180’s to work (which are important) however I feel no matter how many improvements I make, my W will always be complaining about so many things. I need to remind myself that improvements need to be for myself. Things are never good enough for W, she can never be happy with what she has. There’s probably a reason she’s on meds for depression, sleeping and anxiety. While I love and miss her very much I don’t miss her constant complaining. I’ve just always tried to have this mindset that I need to make the most out of each day, life’s too short. Have goals, strive to be better but at the same time be happy with what you have. I think it’s important for having goals however I feel if she reached all of her goals, she would still be complaining. Go figure, W is almost a spitting image of her mom.
I continue to pray for my W, my family and our marriage. Over the last year I lost my father and I’ve also been going through this separation. Both these difficult situations have allowed me to have a closer relationship with the Lord.
I know a lot of my posts are a bit lengthy however it’s just how I work. So many of you are also in touch sitch’s so I really enjoy expressing myself on this board. As always, I appreciate you reading my sitch and I value all and any input. Love to all.
Me(M):37 W:42 Together: 14 Married: 11 D: 4 S:8 W wanted separation 5/5/12 Stopped living together 5/5/12 Currently in DB stage
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”. Thomas Jefferson
