Ro...do YOU feel weak?

I am an old lady smile so this is old lady words of wisdom

it doesn't matter a wit what other people think you look like...it matter what you look like to yourself

you are only a doormat if you feel like one

there are many situations where someone looking from the outside in would have a very different picture of what was going on in my life...I will use my daughter as an example

my daughter is 3 and has epilepsy and autism and things come much harder for her

She only had 15 words or so and they went in and out until around February of this year. We have been so excited to have her communicate that we basically blow a gasket everytime she speaks.

We were in church one day and she was fidgety...she had had an increase in seizures recently which meant an increase in meds. Each med increase and seizure increase makes her autistic behaviors increase too so she was very sensory seaking (biting and pulling her hair etc) She was being being a bit distracting so I got up with her to walk to the back.

She said "I tursty" and I was so excited that she expressed a need, verbally, that I went back up to get her cup and was realy excited and didn't shush her. Our whole family was over the moon that she finally expressed a need.

Now to an outsider...what this looked like was that we had a very misbehaving little girl in church who clearly didn't understand the rules. She was biting and hitting and then started yelling about being thirsty and here where her over indulgent parents just letting her do all this stuff and actually smiling at her and praising her for talking!!! What kind of idiot parents!!!

see how the picture is different???

our minister started to tear up because of the huge step FInn took but an old guy behind us shooshed us pretty loudly.

It's all in the eye of the beholder RO

are you a doormat or a loving wife, giving her husband what he needs at that moment?

Are you being taken advantage of or are you being trusted enough for someone to be vulnerable with you?

these are questions only you can answer because you are the only one that is on the inside

it doesn't matter what I see Ro...it matters what you see and feel and what your husband sees and feels


My aunt told me this past weekend that I should really have Finn potty trained by now...what kind of paret was I that I let her go this long in diapers

I told my aunt that I was so proud of her for being able to walk and run and jump and know her colors when they told us that those were things she would never do that I forgot to worry about potty training but that I would get right on worrying about that as soon as I was done being amazed. She will get there when she gets there

It's all in your perspective