or another perspective - maybe to her it was cake-eating to allow you to do those things, that you had always done for her, and she didn't feel she had the right to ask you to do them anymore?
I believe I had reverted quite a bit into Co-D behaviours over the course of the M.
So in many ways yes, she was cake eating DURING what I felt was the good part of the M. And of course she would "stroke" me from time to time, which made it all seem "OK".
It sometimes is easier to play victim, period. I don't know if one thing hurt more than another, at the end.
My biggest challenge will be to stay away from allowing myself to be Co-D, again.
