Much more experienced people than myself tom help you with detachment. But Indonesia want to saynwe are all here foryou. What busto said was wonderful, and you know yourself. You know how much you can take. And you know you can do this.
There were maybe some expectations that with OW out of the picture, things would begin to heal with H and R? But look at it as baby steps. Live in the now. If R truly ends with OW, that is something. And several people on this site have told us that evennwhen an A ends its not all flowers for the LBS. wAS will still go through periods of loss and grief and may still lash out at you in anger.
Accuracy said in another post that once the OW/M is out of the picture, that's when the true 'waiting' begins.
Just go slow. Don't let your emotions rule you. See what develops with your H's words to end all with OW. Just observe for now.
As for your friend. Well, thats the great thing about friends. I bet if you called her and told her how you really felt, she would understand.
((( )))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
