Are you available to mentor any of the newbies requesting help? You are the person I would recommend to many of those who requested, but I don't want to overburden you. But they sure could use your advice.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I am so flattered that you would recommend me as a mentor! However, I don't think it would be fair of me to sign up for the job at this time. I am hoping that I will be able to post on a daily basis again, in the very near future. So if boot camp is still in session....then I will try my best to offer any help that I can.
Thank you for considering me for the task.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hi Sandi2. I've been back home after 7 months of living apart from kids and wife. We are having setbacks. Both of us snooping and both of us having reservations. I moved back and we swept things under the rug. My W refuses a counselor even though I suggested that even during goods times. My wife currently giving me a silent treatment and refuses to talk about Sitch. I have an email I crafted to validate her feelings but I also have some feelings Ive wanted to convey to her and never have. Seems like me and her are both struggling with trust and don't know how to get it back on track. Of course my actions. But also her actions which I know I can control. I just feel we never talk and that communication is 95% of marriage problems.
You've commented before and I really appreciate your honesty.
I continue to council for myself. I'm looking for a day job and giving up my company. I've also been dieting and eating healthy. I do GAL but not quite enough. Young kids and never get them in bed before 9.
Hi Sandi, hope you're well. You were wonderfully helpful to me in 2008 when my wife left me.
Well we've been back under the same roof for four years now and have had two children in the meantime. It's been a very long road and I've only really started to feel better about our M in the last 18 months.
I sincerely wish you all the best in your own marriage. Thanks so much for your generosity here.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
I, for one have read a lot of your thoughts and found them very eye opening. At this point, my W just asked for Divorce (out of the blue) as well as admitted to seeing OM and I find myself at a loss. I would appreciate your input if you have time to go through my sitch.
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
I am at a loss as to what to do. I am doing my 180s and he notices but says he thinks it is a facade and won't last. Said OK to counseling but is so angry. I don't know how to uninvite him from counseling or what I should do about any thing else.
He moved back to bed, took me hunting (something we enjoyed together) took me to breakfast but then blows up whenever I suggest we hang out.
:-(
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
Sandi2 was just wondering if you can take a look at my thread. You gave me some really good advise and insight just wondered If you have any more Thanks
