I posted back in Spring 2010 on my situation. Wife had affair with boss from bank, typical story. During course of all this she had me put in jail for "threats" via phone call (I told her I'd "choke" her out of getting any more of my money, which constitutes a "threat," I discovered), so I had to live in a hotel for five months while still paying all bills. Wife continued affair, and we agreed to divorce in May of last year.
As a result, I've been trying to recover financially since then. I'm paying off all debts we jointly owned, plus some back taxes incurred during divorce (I had to under pay taxes to help with cash flow). I agreed to live in our house (that she picked out) and refinance within a year.
Ive been trying to refinance the house, but the bank has a wrong SS # for me on the loan, even though I've been the only one paying it!! I asked how this happened and they said it is possibly a "data entry" error!! So I've been requesting the forms needed to get MY SS# back on the loan. I've done this twice already, and never received the forms. So I called today and asked what address they are sending my forms to, and it turns out, they are sending them to HER new address!!
Today I get a certified mail from a new attorney she has retained demanding we change some aspects of the divorce decree, including having the kids (11 and 7) change schools to her school district (she lives with her boss now), elimination of a vacation I take with them every winter, and putting the house up for sale due to lack of refinancing!
I've worked hard to forgive her and tried to work on just getting out from under, but it gets so exhausting, as I'm sure you guys know. She is SO mean spirited. Sometimes I just wonder when she will have negative consequences come back around her way, since it seems she enjoys creating this turmoil and always gets away with it.
I don't trust her, and I hate that I feel like she always finds a way to put fear into my life. Now I have to find a new atty, even though I'm still in debt 13K to the old one!
