Am I kidding myself.

[Hopefull2]

Thanks T2, I do need to "Back Off" and I do believe it is the only approach that I have. I have mentioned several times to her in emails that i am not willing to "give up hope on us". I need to back away from that, she know that is what i feel i do not need to re-iterate that (convincing myself...). I strugle with defining what friendship really is but i do know that it does not need to be pushed, and if that is all we end up with it will happen over time. I have re-read the 37 rules, always a good reminder. Each time i read them i find one that needs emphasis at the time, today was "listen carefully".



Cadet, I have made it through most of the posts you recomended. Thanks. Much to think through and lots to put in the back of the mind for later. The "Why They Run" post from Snodderly still hits home for me. It has helped me to empathize and truly accept the pain (and inner turmoil) that she is in. I question if she will ever make it through without professional input. I believe she is a survivor and is doing what she must to survive but that is different than truly dealing with it. I think often of a post i read talking about "unconditional love", and the willingness to let go and let them live for their benefit, the words ring true but the practicallity of it is much harder.

thanks again all, much gratitude for this site, provides some peace during these times of change.