"Don't forget that I was a crap person and husband for 6 years,"
True. But you also didn't take a job out of state, threaten to take your son with her, call the cops on her, unload all of her dirty laundry to the world, accuse her of sex crimes against your own son and made it so that she couldn't see your son without supervision.
Your W hasn't just crossed the line. She jumped over it to another state. Keep that in perspective when she starts to throw things back at you again.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Bond - Yes, I agree and am staying vigilant. SS - The tricky part is to keep my boundaries up while not letting my heart harden so much so that it wards my wife off. But I'm ready, and if my wife is truly sincere, then I hope she's ready too.
Alamo, I don’t buy it. In my experience when people commit as deeply as she apparently has a 180 as rapidly as this one apparently is, is highly unlikely. I am only able to draw from what has been posted and I have been known to miss subtleties in posts, still I question the sincerity here.
Step back; enable her to come to you. Look to God of course and look at rules 12, 13,14,17,24,25 they all speak of giving her the space she needs to come to you.
Even if you’ve made the path back paved and smooth she still needs to travel along it herself. Her effort and her faith will carry her along.
Don’t attempt to control this outcome. Work instead toward protecting your relationship with your son, your son and yourself. Tread carefully for landmines still abound.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Alamo, I don’t buy it. In my experience when people commit as deeply as she apparently has a 180 as rapidly as this one apparently is, is highly unlikely. I am only able to draw from what has been posted and I have been known to miss subtleties in posts, still I question the sincerity here.
this is what every WAS has felt when the LBS makes a sudden change after the bomb. It's easy to see how it works.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
One last "push" at 8:30am tomorrow. Over the weekend, my wife and I haven't been able to come to an agreement, so it'll be down to the judge to make his final decree.
My heart is rock bottom tonight. I hate how my wife and I (once a loving and pretty happy couple) have come to this point. Due to many glaring discrepancies in behavior and timing, I'm hard-pressed now to see true sincerity in her visit on Wednesday night. For all she said about willing to do anything to keep us together/for this family/for our son, it seems she's just not ready or willing to make that sacrifice. HER career will always (and sadly) come first. Nevertheless, I continue to pray for her soul, mind and heart; I still care for her that much, at least.
One thing that has stuck in my mind was something someone here said: If God has the power to destroy, He also has the power to repair.
I'm not giving up yet. Far from it. I seek your prayers tonight and tomorrow morning. Pray for all of us, please. Thank you.
Regardless of what you think, or any of us think, about your W, alamo... she very well could have felt sincere and truly believed what she said on Wednesday...
For what ever reason, this stuff plays through to what ever end it might...
Totally understandable you're feeling down...
As always, focus on you and your son... Your W's path will be what ever it is...
One last "push" at 8:30am tomorrow. Over the weekend, my wife and I haven't been able to come to an agreement, so it'll be down to the judge to make his final decree.