Turn the page

[JustStunned]

@Val, NeedGrace, BeingMe: Thank You! I truly have been blessed.

After spending 48 hrs in the house they rented S and DIL decided to break their lease. I now have houseguests until they decide to move out. It is change and we, me my dog, my daughter, and they, Son DIL, Granddaughter two dogs and two cats are adapting to it. My mother is just pleased she has greater opportunity to see them and her Great Granddaughter

My plan is to be present, support, and stay out of the way while they hunt for a new place. I will do a little research for them about a couple of the places on their list. This is an opportunity for me to stand and build this relationship.

This is not about their choosing to spend this time with me instead of XW. This is about being given the chance to begin having a relationship with my Son and his wife as adults.

Journaling: The combined graduation party for the nephews was also this weekend. I was involved in some of the last minute setup and running around. I had a good time and managed to maintain a pleasant demeanor while XW and her entourage were present. It was an interesting dynamic to watch as family watched and waited for more drama to ensue from us. Those that did were disappointed. XW pretended I did not exist and in doing so only reinforced that I do and how uncomfortable she is. Looking back I could have involved myself more in the activities while she was present. I did not choosing instead to remain back and out of the way.

I was back the next day helping to clean up after. There were many hands and we made short work of getting things squared away. Much later on Sunday night Son, DIL and I sat and talked about their house hunting efforts and more than a few mundane items. I need to speak less and ask questions they can elaborate upon. Difficult for a tell assertive, analytical driver, but I am motivated to accomplish it.