Where do I go from here?

[Hopeful84]

Thanks for the advice guys, and yes kml I too feel that he is a suicide risk.

I think for now, I can be his friend, but should not be intimate (of course, that could risk my health if he is not in his right mind and being careful) and just be there to listen.

I can start to not pursue, but be here for him if he needs an ear or something...

I do think your analogy is correct kml... that right now he is reaching out to me, and he is not being a meanie.. he is actually being very loving.. but I am concerned about how he can be so loving with two different women in his life, but again I do think my situation does not fit the cookie cutter mode..

Today is six months exactly... and it also means we have been married for 9 and a half years exactly today as well.. so its a tough day...

I do think I should put up a wall to protect myself.. and to keep my self respect... but I think perhaps the friend approach would be a good path to follow for now. I mean, I have been his best friend since he was 15 years old... he really doesn't have anyone else right now.

Its a very confusing place to be, and I appreciate all the heartfelt advice... I think I can just be honest with him and tell him how I feel, but not too much... but getting it off my chest how his actions make me feel and how would he feel if the shoe were on the other foot... I know it may not register with him or get through to him.. but atleast I can say I gave it my all... I know perhaps this doesn't follow DB or DR techniques, but kind of seems like I have to use kid gloves on my fragile husband, so he doesn't break, to be there for him, to continue to respect our marriage, without losing my self respect or self worth in the process...