I am happy for you, that you found a way to have it easier with the tidyness. I can tell you this:
I am working on myself, I go to therapy, I have a coach, I am reading self help books, I had women who came to clean, I had an organizer who came every week, I made plans, I've thrown away tons of stuff and so on, and so on.
I don't have problems to throw away things. I just can't find a daily routine.
And I tried to negotiate with my husband. He wouldn't listen nor talk to me. He just wants it the way he wants it.
So, I think it's not very fair of you, accusing me of not wanting to be more tidy, especially since you don't know me at all.
I tried to write this to you in a PM, but they are disabled.
