Hey guys, Amada or anyone else, if you ever feel like you want to talk about any of this or anything else, feel free to email me -- mindy s gray at gmail dot com. I always find it helps.
Honestly, I'm not messy or dirty or even disorganized. I take pretty good care of things, but my husband was always eager to do the washing and clean the bathroom and clean the kitchen. I could have waited a little bit longer or may have done a less thorough job and been ok. He wanted to do it and sometimes I just didn't feel like doing it, and he would go and do it all. And if I'd offer my help, he'd say, no, it's ok. And if I DID try to do something, he'd tell me I did it wrong. I tried to clean the food processor the other week and forgot to take off a piece to clean, and he was annoyed about it. That kind of thing wouldn't bother me. I guess he felt like he was the one doing it all, but he didn't have to be so over the top about it and could have asked for help and could have been a little more lenient and not put me down so much.
I think the biggest two things in my situation was being too dependent and playing too many games.
