About the crying on his shoulder...maybe you should try it.
You know I've been reading a lot on unconditional love because it was such a foreign concept to me. The definition is so simple: caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. But it is hard to put into practice.
Your h is still in the home with you, still communicating with you. I think it's definitely worth working on showing him that kind of love and maybe you will get it in return.
If not, you learned something about yourself and your ability to love.
It's funny you wrote this. I'm driving along (I just stopped for lunch), and thought to myself just because "I" think I'm always there doesn't mean he feels I really was. I mean, I was hardly ever home: went straight from my job and worked out until 8 or 9 at night during the week, always had somewhere to go on the weekends, while he was sitting at home. I knew something was going on with him, but because he wasn't talking to me, I got angry, and basically stopped trying. Maybe if I had shown that I was really concerned, and kind of scared and vulnerable, we'd be in a different place right now.
I don't know...just throwing my thoughts out there...
