Once again - there's so many positives in your last post.
You didn't react to the phone call - D notices and the W (not you) must be feeling pretty rough now. Shame
I know exactly about the money issues. I've just plucked up the courage to put the spare cash card out for my W - I trust her (but don't trust her) or do I? - know how it goes?
Stay strong. Chin up. The W must be noticing something and that's good for the pair of you. It's a pain not being to share our secrets - our home here. Thats' good though because we all get to share with likeminded folks.
Didn't want the big D - WOW! If I could rewind MY clock a week - but I'll get there. And you must believe you will too.