i hope it resonates for RoRo, because it definitely does for me
roro it's okay for you to do that you know - give him a shoulder to cry on in spite of...
look at it this way - you have come a long way to be able to offer that kind of compassion and unconditional love. there aren't any of us here in our sitches who wouldn't do the same without hesitation
the positive part of that interaction - he allowed you to comfort him - that's a baby step, don't you think?
zig
Zig, maybe that's some of the old me rearing its ugly head. Maybe "I'm" feeling like I don't want to be hurt again by being his shoulder so I don't want to do it. Which brings me to the real thing here: fear that I look weak and vulnerable and that I am being taken advantage of. Which causes me to run...which is essentially the same thing my H may feel. Crazy right?
And I guess it could be considered a baby step. I felt like I was just the person who happened to be there. I'm ALWAYS there. Meanwhile, sometimes I feel like I'm a dam waiting to burst. Think I can cry on HIS shoulder like that?
