Val:
Take the job for sure, it will be good for you. And focus on it (no flying back). Signing yourself would seem to be a 180 for you. Get this phase over with. Hanging on is doing you no good. Perhaps something will change down the road, perhaps not. But limbo is no good. Any neiter is beating yourself up.

Just MHO. Good luck, my friend.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012