The other major thing was that she wanted to focus on her career and felt that somehow I (or any potential children) would hold her back. That's 100% untrue too and I think was more of an excuse than anything else. I even offered to put my job on hold to allow her to follow her career. She said that if she was on her own she could travel anywhere she wanted and not have to worry about me and how it affected us. In particular she mentioned wanting to work in seattle and portugal. Both of which I was happy to go to. What do I see when I open my email at work? An advert for a talk tomorrow in her department from someone in her field of interest that I know she'll be really excited about who's visiting from Portugal. Cue waterworks...
