Her major complaints included that I was unsociable and didn't spend enough quality time with her. One of which I am working on hard. The social aspect is relatively easy and quite enjoyable, the quality time is currently impossible.
However, my concern is that not having contact with her is going to reinforce these problems rather than help them.
She felt I was very negative about life in general and I believe that was actually due to my own low self esteem which I am working on, unhappiness in my job which I'm looking at and probably drinking too much wine which I've stopped doing completely. She also said that I never gave her the support she needed. I don't think that's true but maybe that I gave my support in a way that didn't work for her. I would like to speak to her more to find out why she thought that but again that's not possible at the moment. One of the major issues is this thing about her family and especially her dad. My being annoyed by him interfering in our lives meant that she felt separated from him. I don't actually mind her family. They have quite a different dynamic to mine but I can deal with it. Unfortunately, it has become a huge thing for her. So she got rid of the thing which separated her from her dad. She now knows that she has a problem with that and is talking to her IC about it. That's not something I can help with, I can support, but that's it. She seems determined to make this all about her and her issues when I don't see it like that. Now I've been looking into it I believe we just weren't interacting properly. We never thought about the relationship and as a result it became an unhappy place to be. I think that if we both make the choice to address our issues then we can have a fantastic future together. Right now all she wants to do is focus on herself which is so frustrating.
