So, I just finished 5 love languages and am once again in tears. Why? Because I learnt so much but can do nothing about it! My wife won't discuss anything about us, she's convinced herself we're fundamentally different and that she is so many problems of her own to deal with p that she can't come back ever.

Words of affirmation - trying to get her good books again
Quality time - if only! I think this is her primary language together with acts of service.
Receiving gifts - again trying to bribe
Acts of service - she doesn't want anything doing by me
Physical touch - that's my primary but shes so detached right now there's not a chance of that.

And I can't do anything except focus on myself? I want to make her happy but can't even think of where to start.