I appreciate your advice. I am only taking these signs as baby steps and believe me they are better than nothing. I am GAL and concentrating on our D. My W has said many times that she wants a divorce but has done nothing about it but talk about it. Which tells me how confused she is. She has not filed, moved out or gotten her own bank acct. in DR it tells me to let my actions speak for me. Well it seems as though my W actions are speaking louder than her words. I have a large support group here and close to me. All of which are giving me confidence and self worth again. All of which I needed.
As for hobbies… Well that's a hard one. Mine were always family orientated. But I am trying to keep busy by hanging out with friends and keeping myself happy. I've learned that I can only control myself! So I am trying to control my happiness. It looks like D has noticed the stability that I have , which makes me feel great. It made me think today "even though I have made some bad decisions, what matters is what I am doing now"
