As of today... he has not filed, he has seen changes in me that he likes, he wants to end his R with OW and move towards working on our M.
I do not say this to say that this will happen to everyone. I say it because I've heard those words before and I chose to follow my own agenda. Just because a spouse may say these things... it very well could be that they just don't know what they want but they do know that they don't want to feel the way they do anymore. And they associate that negative feeling with you.
So take off the pressure and give space. I know not thinking about her is super hard... believe me, I do. What so far has helped you the most in taking your mind off of your sitch?
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
