Thanks WenikiTiki. I am reading plenty of posts. Sometimes they just serve to confuse me. But I am sticking to the plan Jody gave me. Immediately back to my 180's and GAL. As I mentioned above my marriage is GAL due to my husband's work schedule. I have a great life actually. I do believe he resents it somewhat. So it's hard for him to notice any difference in me there. Where I am making the most difference is 180's.. quietly listening without trying to fix problems or being too opinionated about things and not mothering H is one area i've been working on. Things have settled down again since the conflicts above as I immediately went back to DB'ing and quietly but cheerfully going about my tasks at home, asking H about his work and being focused on him (there is never any interest in what I am doing or feeling). The convo is always about him and how he looks, he just about rams it down our throats (it's actually so funny..the kids and I laugh about it so hard when he's not around..not nice I know. I have explained MLC to them so they can understand why). I am being very kind to him because he must be feeling so insecure about himself. Quite sad really. He has the day off today so we'll see how it turns out.
