Thanks silly. I think H needs to end up in DB bootcamp wink or have a stern talking-to from someone.

Updating yesterday's update:
4 months ago:
me: I think we should use the tax refund to get a new dishwasher.
H: okay, sounds good.

3 months ago:
me: I think we should use the tax refund to get a new dishwasher.
H: I don't think we should spend money on that, leave it, we're going to sell the house anyway.

Yesterday:
H: I think we should get a new dishwasher.
me: Why do you think that?
H: Because this one is gross. I know you've been working hard to try to keep it clean but something is wrong with it and we should just get a new one.
me: well we had saved part of the tax refund to pay for a new dishwasher.
H: okay, great!

Today:
(as I'm trying to figure out how to remove the filter to clean it - turns out it is not possible on this model)
H: We could go look for a new dishwasher later today.
me: I don't really feel like spending money on a dishwasher right now.
H: (left the room)

10 minutes after that he comes in the kitchen and sees that I'm eating cookie dough I made that had been in the fridge. He did the most incredibly whiny voice and said "Awwww, I didn't know there was cookie dough in the fridge!" Apparently he's 5!

I'm experimenting with being even less warm than I had been. More matter-of-fact without being cold. We'll see how this goes.