How can they truly commit right out of the gate? JKS says her husband was in pain in the M for 5 years -- it would be irrational to 100% commit without seeing promise that the new M can be better than the old one. That commitment needs to be earned it can't just be expected as a requirement to get started
I can't believe I'm reading this.
Without a true commitment there will always be an excuse from the WAS.
I believe both side need to commit to the M. Yes the WAW spouse needs to feel the new M will be good.
Although the LBS "Neglected" the M or parts of it, they werent the ones to bring a third party into the mix.
How much easier would it be to save a M if there wasn't a third member influencing the WAS?
The WAS chose not to seek proper help and enforce proper boundaries.
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I think everyone would agree in this situation that I just need to continue to stop pursuing, no contact and no R talk, right? Stay happy and upbeat during kid exchanges and continue to work on the things that I have struggled with before... ie cleaning, anger management, GALing.
YEPPP!
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I think if I have a clear cut plan from this point forward and I refer to it often then I can have a better idea as to how to handle myself when I start to get emotional. I would really love to know how I should handle our next counseling session.
Yes indeed. Knowing what your triggers are, being aware if them AND how to handle them will help tremendously.
What do you want from C?
If the C is just a meeting to beat up on your H then he wont want to go.
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