Hmmmmm, taking the walls down to protect myself and letting him protect me.

Is this what you meant to say? If so, do you see it as his job to protect you?

About his mother, be proactive. Walk over to her with a smile on your face and lead the conversation. DB her.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss