Since almost one year I am working through the DB possibilities.More about my story here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...923#Post2258923 My husband left for Peru, where he comes from. I am Swiss and I live in Switzerland. In February me and the kids travelled to Peru until April because the doctors detected a brain tumor in h's head. My husband got an operation and is well now. But since then all I have planted with the DB seeds is gone again. There is no progress.In contrary. About one and a half month ago I told him I decided to follow his wish and come to Peru. For one year, to try if I could live there with the kids. He got angry, because I said I want to try. Maybe it is like a threat to him because he might think if he doesn't "perform" well I will leave again.. But I don't know. Last month he had to go to Lima again for radiation (so the tumor doesn't grow again) and in that time I was visiting the U.S. for a seminar in DB. I couldn't call him from there and told him that I have my laptop with me so he could find me on Skype. He did once, before he left for Lima and he was not interested at all in anything. I stayed nice and wished him all the best for the radiation. He never contacted me again until I was back in Switzerland three weeks later. By then I decided to enter the last resort technique again. So when he tried to call I wasn't here. Three times I missed his call. He said on the answering machine, he was travelling to Iquitos in the jungle and that he would call again. Well, he didn't (like most of the times he doesn't do what he says he does). So I decided to not call either. Yesterday I heard from my sister in law that my h is home again (and he didn't call) I really feel that I have done everything I can. I thought to decide to not call anymore and let him call or not - would be the best decision. But now I don't know what to say, if he calls (or maybe when, if he does..) He probably will ask, if I don't want to talk to him. I have the feeling, that it is like a fight where each one of us is waiting to see who gives in first. And I don't want this. On the other hand it is really so, that I think I have done all that I can and I became a fixing addict, so I should try to stop try to fixing this relationship. Oh gosh, I think I write very confusing... I hope you understand.
What I wish to find out is, if I should stay strong and not call or if I should call once, since he tried 3 times (although now that he is home he could easily skype me since I am almost always online...)
