Thanks again jks. I've been having some time to myself this evening and after 30 mins rowing I am starting to face up to a few home truths. 1) My wife is definitely going to take her stuff and move out to a flat. Don't know why I've been avoiding thinking about this but IT IS HAPPENING! I hope we reconcile and I'm going to give it everything I've got but to do I that I'm going to have to change a lot about the way I live my life. 2) I will be 38 in August. My current contract runs out in 1 1/2 years and I am not going to be able to stay in my current role after that. So what then? 3) I can mess around filling time at weekends and in the evenings but I am going to have to leave this house and move on. So what then? I have never spent much time pondering these things before. I was young and I partied a lot and played a lot of sports. I did a PhD. I met my wife and we had a great 10 years together. I have pretty much ignored my own life goals in that time so much so that I don't actually know what I want from life any more. Now I am faced with a new, scary dawn. Obviously, I'm not looking for immediate answers to these questions. This is something I am going to discuss a length my IC (unless he keeps asking me "how does that make me feel" in which case I'm getting a new one!) but if anyone could point me in the direction of some resources which may help me on the way I would be really grateful.
