Hey Ro, my bomb day was 1/2/12, so I am right there with you in feeling emotional and uncontrollable crying (mainly in the shower). This site, although I only found it last week, has been a godsend to me. My husband still has a gf, but still treats me so well, tells me he loves me and misses me and can't stop thinking about me, so he is definitely a cake eater. Just today I told him that I think I needed a break for a few days, and he got all upset about it. Like, oh you are upset that you can't have a W and a gf too? I dunno. Its hard for me to know what the right answers are in DBing. He never talks about D, ever... but its like umm ok, so this is my M? Its hard to know if pushing them away is the answer, but for now I have to focus on me-- I am loving bubble baths, and watching HGTV with my dogs, and going to the gym. I am working slowly on GAL, but its hard when H is at the house- which is almost daily, and often he spends the night in the other room-- he still comes to kiss me goodnight (?????) so yeah, its a hard place to be in. I think somehow I am the mistress, and she is more like the W now.. anyway.. just know you are not alone in this..
M-28 H-28 M-9 1/2 years T- 12 years PA- 01/02/12 (still going on)
