Hi Anclost! I'll leave the advice for others but just wanted to say that I think you handled the situation perfectly. And, you are right to be suspicious and to question your W's motives. And, you are right to be angry and distrustful. Your W has treated you terribly and she must own that behavior and correct it. Do what you think is right. I think you are on the right path.
Hang in there!
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