I need to ask for your opinions again. Yesterday was our anniversary. The previous evening I was at dinner with a friend and my wife couldn't reach me and left multiple text and voice messages.
In the messages she was very distraught and said she wants to come home.
So I called her. We talked for a while, she was a complete emotional wreck, crying and sobbing.
Not sure if I handled it correctly but I didn't tell her she could come home, I asked her what she was willing to do. I said her actions have hurt me immensely and I'm unsure of how to move forward. I said counseling is a must, both individual and marriage. I don't trust her motives, is it because she really wants to be with me or is it just because financially it is difficult.
It was hard, one of the hardest things I've ever done not to just tell to come home. I hate to see her suffer like that, but I am really scared that we will fall back into the same bad relationship.
We still aren't divorced on paper, not sure how to handle that either. Do I continue with the divorce, work on the R and if it works out remarry? Or do we stop the divorce.
I was very direct with my wife. I told her the behavior the last year has been completely unacceptable. I called her on many of the things I've discussed here, I told her I was actually very angry with her. She needs help, professional help and it starts with her insecurity issues from when she was a child.
Again, I don't know if I said or did the right thing, but I feel I have to protect myself somewhat at this point right?
She said she would call and talk more on Sunday. She told her parents she was miserable and they told her to come home and work it out.
I have no idea how to do this TBH. I still need to figure out myself, how to be strong in a relationship, what I want etc.
