My W never apologized, nor did she show remorse. You may never get that -- is that OK with you? The WAS feels angry and hurt, they don't feel sorry. They actually expect YOU to apologize for putting them in this situation, not the other way around. If you can accept that you'll be in a better place.
Confusedfather is right, your goals need to be about what YOU are going to do, she can't be any part of them. The list above is your list of "hopes". The problem with hopes is that if they don't occur on your timeline you get demoralized. If you set goals that YOU can achieve, then you see progress and get energized.
Set some goals around your 180's, about what you're doing to GAL, how many new people you will meet, etc.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015