I'm back, on my own.

[canadianMrs.]

We moved to this town for H's job, my kids were born there, and raised there the first few years of their lives. Then we moved again for H's job, to where H is now. H and I don't live in the same city. I moved back to my home "towb" (actually big city), to have emotional support and more opportunties for continuing my education/employment. I have done both.

They do like H, but I think they are growing tired of him coming and changing plans. When I asked D, she said "Its not his weekend". I get this a lot. She also pointed out that I don't change his plans with them.

I tried to compromise, and suggested we meet back in the town I live on the Sunday afternoon.(which is 1/2 way from where he lives and where the kids and I are going) I also invited him to come with us to see fireworks later that night. While his orginal plans have fallen through, he's still made new plans and he wanted me to rush back for him in the morning, he could have the kids for the day, then he go back home and go out with his friends at night.

I also said he could have all of Monday, which he has off, but he said no to that. He's made plans with friends again.

He won't come to where we are either. I did ask, even though I knew the answer. It would be a 4 hour drive...and would cut into his social life.

I'm feel like I was trying to compromise, but he wasn't. In the past, he would just complaining until I gave in.I feel like this was more of the same.

He called again tonight which was a repeat of earlier. I said I was open to other suggestions. We'll see what happens.
Its hard because I'm trying hard to be civil but keep him at arms length. I don't want to be stubborn but I also don't want to be manipulated.