Thank you Twink. I appreciate hearing your experience and perspective. I could have written your post myself. You may be a little ahead of me in the process but the parallels are uncanny.
I hope and trust I can handle my situation with a fraction of the grace and grounding you have demonstrated.
My two mantras I claim tonight:
1. zero expectations 2. "sit and be still and the answers will come to you" (this is a frequent quote of someone on the board and I apologize for not giving credit where it is due)
Thank you again Twink. You have been a help to me.