Glad you decided to go enjoy enchiladas that your H made at his place.
I think you know that I heard my W had lost a lot of weight and even though I saw her recently, I chose not to process her weight loss (I looked at her so I certainly saw her, it certainly was a choice, even if it was subconscious) and was a little surprised when I heard about it.
So today, I decided I to simply acknowledge her weight loss and congratulate her. Because I would be happy for anyone whom I knew struggled with loosing weight. And I do not care if she gets mad at me because I'm being nice. Because I don't care if it has any affect on our relationship. It's just who I am.
I can make choices based on my past pain... or I can just let it go... and be me...
Your friend with the alcoholic partner? I know many people who live a life with an alcoholic. And I know a few people who are recovering and still in a M. And I know those who have left while their partner was an alcoholic AND AFTER they were in recovery.
It really just becomes a choice of the alcoholic's spouse.
