That's interesting, Jammie... I know my W told me many times that she would be really sad... and I while I hoped it had to do about the two of us, I came to understand that may not have been the case.
FWIW, consider that you being a WAS may have very little to do with your H. Your H may just be a target for your angst as even the little things he may do or try to do "right" rub you the wrong way. Not because of him, but because your hidden pains are surfacing... whether you want them to or not... because you may never have really worked through them...
Having said that (the NEW "but", here), if that is the case... and your H is very aware that you want to leave... and has chosen to leave, himself...
Since your M is already dead... you may as well lay it on the line for him and let him know that you're realising that a lot of what is going on for you may not have anything to do with the sitch and that while you understand his desire to move on, that you will work on your issues and that if possible, you might consider discussing the two of you again in the future...
Make sense?
Of course, that's just my opinion. Totally up to you and others here may have a different opinion...
