Always more to learn...

[needgrace]

hi SD,

glad to hear that you are plugging along. it sounds like you are developing a great deal of self-awareness, concerning your feelings about the bathroom and boundaries. your friend was insightful, the bathroom project must seem bigger and more emotionally charged due to all the feelings you are having about the R.

i really like what you said about boundaries being internal and how it is how we decide what to think/do about with what others say and do. it is about controlling ourselves versus trying to control others. a picture of a dam comes to mind with us controlling how much/often we let things in.. i like that.

i have tended to let too much in and to be too defensive...co-dep behaviours, I am sure.

if you think of the bathroom as a symbol of your R, what do you think it means about how you are feeling about the R now? do your feelings change or are they fairly consistent?

you seem so strong, patient and able to wait. i feel more like jello my feelings squiggling all over the place.

thank you for sharing your journey, SD. it really helps me. ((( )))