New development. Later in the day H pursued me about the internet dating site. He stood over me and pointed his finger at me as he does..in a bullying and intimidating manner. I tried to keep calm but it was upsetting me and I told him to stop bullying me. He has been using this tactic frequently over the last 12 months when he is angry and then threatens me with divorce. I had to say to him that he was getting what he wanted so therefore there was no further need to keep intimidating me and blaming me for his problems because they would no longer exist. You won't be able to make any further threats, it will be over.
Unfortunately my 18 yo S who overheard came down and said to his father, I have stayed out of this so far but leave mum alone she is lonely and scared and only wants some love. H immediately turned to me and accused me of turning his kids against him (19 yo D has tried to speak with him also). What else do you want to blame me for? He said he has no friends and blames me for that too. H is a workaholic who is on the edge of a breakdown. I said you have neglected your relationships and prioritised your work. There is nothing here that cannot be fixed. I had to say to him.."you need to get help". He was very emotional and finding it hard to keep it together. He stormed out the door to leave for work.
