That is one of the reasons that part of DBing is to GAL.
What are you doing to take a break from all of this ??
What new things are you trying ??
What is the one thing that scares the bejeezus out of you when you think of doing it ????
Yeah, there's a lot of deep thinking that has to happen in order to answer some of these questions. I've been reading so many books on relationships, spending time here, and doing the retrov, sometimes it does get overwhelming.
I did start playing golf again this year, just once per week with friends, but we usually do dinner after. This is about the only time I actually do anything out of the house, and yet the W still takes pot shots at me for it. I have a ton of recreational books I'd like to dig into, but that's more "sitting at home" stuff. I have been working out (insanity!) and it's been fun...have some things like zombie run and tough mudder on the calendar for late summer. There are some other things I'd like to consider...taking my dad to see the pyramids and things like that, but I need do to some more thinking on that as well.
Oh, with regards to answer my W about things she would like to see me change, my thought on that actually came from "Desperate Marriages." In there he suggest asking your spouse what 1-2 things that they'd like to see you work on, after you have fed their love bank for a month or so. But you're right, I probably have all the info I need. She would love it if I was happier, upbeat, and wasn't so insecure. Outside of that, I think she already likes the rest of me, so I really do have a short list to work on.
